Tuesday, July 11, 2006

The Romantic Mindset

Some of us are romantic by nature and some just haven't got a clue.   Some people think it's all about the bling and some think it's all about the sex.  Wrong on both counts.  Don't get me wrong both beautiful  jewelry and great sex are appreciated.    But when days turn into weeks, weeks to months and months to years, it's the touch of hands across a dinner table, the brush of his leg against yours under the table,  the hand in yours as you walk down a city street on a warm summer evening,  the arm around your shoulder in the ice cream parlor, the gentle caress of your arm, the moments when it's just you and he even though you're in a group, the moments that leave you breathless and make your heart skip a beat -- it's the romantic gesture that's unforgettable. 
Here are just a few of the most unforgettable moments  I've ever known:
  • being sent flowers that reminded me of a specific place in a park where we once walked
  • being surprised with a dinner that was a very special take-out order from a five-star restaurant
  • being surprised with a home-cooked meal that was amazingly good. 
  • the drive from Boston to Montreal
  • receiving six poinsettias and a miniature tree for a first Christmas in a new apartment.
  • sitting in a bubble bath together with champagne and candles
  • feeling arms wrapped around me, a kiss on the cheek and then being handed a chilled glass of wine while preparing a dinner for friends.
  • changing his dinner order once he saw my reaction to his selection - welsh rarebit.   I have a thing about anyone that eats relatives of Bambi, Thumper, any of their woodland friends, Flipper or Skippy. 
  • unexpectedly receiving a book on a subject that I am researching. 
  • picking a specific time of each day to think of and/or pray for each other. 
  • curling up on the sofa watching classic movies until sunrise
  • receiving a book of love poems with hand written entries on specific pages
  • wake-up and/or goodnight calls
  • and finally getting to keep his  favorite well-worn jacket because I adore the way he smells.    
Enough from me, here are a few tips on the "Mindset of a Romantic"  by Gregory J.P. Godek from his book "1001 Ways to Be Romantic"
Enjoy!  plk
Mindset of a Romantic
Romantics are Flexible
Decide on the spur-of-the-moment to take a half day off work!
Consciously  "change gears" at the end of the day -- from your "business mode" into your "personal mode".  Most working people need to practice turning their feelings back on at the end of the day
Romantics are mind-readers
Yes,  being more romantic enhances your ESP!.  Actually, those who are tuned in to their lovers  -- those who listen well -- develop a kind of "sixth sense" about what their lovers would love. One of the best things about long-term relationships is that you develop this sense.  And as it develops, your relationship deepens and your intimacy grows.
Get her/him a gift  -- not a present
What has he/she really wanted for a long time, but held back from buying? Get it for him/her!
Romantics have a good sense of humor.
There's no such thing as a "humorless romantic".  While the foundation of romance is a serious love, the nature of romance is light-hearted.
Do you laugh together a lot?
Do you let you True Self shine through?
Do something Zany tonight!
Romantics are passionate (#1)
I'm not talking about sexual passion here, but about a passion or life. Romantics don't allow their lives, or love lives, to slide into boredom -- the deadly enemy of all relationships.
Express the true depth of your feelings for your lover
What is your lover passionate about? Recognize it, act on it.
Romantics are passionate ( #2)
Yes, as a matter of fact, romantics do tend to be more sexually passionate than the average mortal.  ( Just another of the many side-benefits of the romantic lifestyle!)
Romantics "work at it" -- and "play at it" too !
Being a romantic is not the same as being a starry-eyed, unrealistic dreamer. Romantics often work long and hard to pull off some of their "romantic masterpieces". And, of course, romantics
play and have a lot of fun.  If you haven't gathered that by now,  there's probably no hope for you.
Romantics are always "dating"
Familiarity breeds contempt only if you let it.  There are thousands of ways to keep your relationship fresh and new.
Romantics live in the moment.
"Carpe diem" -- seize the day!.  Don't put it off until tomorrow.  Do something passionate for your lover.  Do it now!. Do it with feeling!
Romantics are magnets for romantic ideas
Romantics have a portion of their brains assigned to the task of recognizing romantic opportunities when they appear. Other people screen them out.
Romantics notice  unique gifts when shopping for other things. 
Romantics are cheerleaders
Romantics are the biggest fans of their lovers.  They provide enthusiastic support, constant encouragement and unconditional love.  ( They don't succeed 100% of the time, naturally, but they're always in there trying.)
Romantics are creative
They see their relationships as opportunities to express their creativity, as arenas for self expression, as safe havens for experimenting, and as places for growth.
Romantics have their priorities straight
What are your true priorities?  Where do you really expend your time, energy and creativity?  Rank these categories according to their relative importance in your life:
  • Relationship
  • Family
  • Faith
  • Health
  • Work
  • Community
  • Education
  • Leisure.
How do your priorities line up?

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